Being comfortable is great. It’s awesome knowing what’s expected of you and knowing that you can deliver. Everything is doable and nothing is particularly scary because it’s all something that you’ve done before. On top of that, you have a support network – be it at work, in your personal life or from your curling league (or whatever activity or hobby you prefer).
That’s all great. It’s also boring, potentially suffocating and probably not a great space for learning or improving yourself in any major way.
I’m taking a lot of leaps in a lot of different ways in the next month. I’m changing jobs, changing states and changing marital statuses to embark on a new life with my partner. I also sold my house and finished graduate school. To say that the past few months have been eventful would be an understatement.
Freaking out over the change would be easy. Deciding you can’t take it and didn’t ask for it and shouldn’t have to deal with it is easy and dishonest. It’ll also make you hate yourself in the end because when given a golden opportunity to change and grow, you decided to complain and shrink.
Relinquishing control isn’t exactly what you need to do either, although it’s certainly appealing. Instead of leaving your life and the sudden changes up to luck, it’s important to take stock of what’s happening and what you can control. If something is within your power to positively change or affect – do it. If it’s something beyond what you can handle or take charge of, freak out for a minute, relax and move on.
In event planning, a lot of stuff can go wrong, from issues with food to terrible weather. Human beings can only fix so much, which makes it even more important to focus on what you can fix and let everything else sort itself out. If you spend all your energy screaming at the catering staff for bringing the wrong food, you won’t have time to fix the issue by running to the grocery store. Similarly, if you channel your inner King Lear and rage at the storm, you won’t have time to get tents or move the event indoors.
Move forward graciously and happily into the future – or at least fake it until you feel gracious and happy and stop feeling freaked out.